As much as I know this, sometimes I don’t follow my own advice. Something life and emotions feel like an emergency and we have the tendency to want to talk about it, right this second!
The problem is that our emotions are controling our behaviour at this point and we may react in a negative way – with aggressive, or what I think is worse, passive – aggressiveness, and we may be irrational and not be think with our wise mind.
Give yourself a break.
A day or two at the very least, wait until things ‘cool down’ a bit. If it’s still on your mind in the coming day, then talk about it.
Be patient, it truly is not an emergency.
I feel_______, because of _______.
Ex. I feel hurt because of the way you spoke to me…
Instead of: You’re a piece of shit, horrible boyfriend/friend, You are a bad person.
Quit judging, and only highlight the facts. “I feel hurt” “I feel disappointed”, because of______.